Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Victims don't like to hear it, but they need to be careful not to put themselves in harm's way

I hate to say "you were asking for it," but . . . you were asking for it!  If you get intimate with someone who can hurt you, then you have only yourself to blame when you get hurt.

I am, of course, referring to Los Angeles Lakers forward Devin Ebanks, who was falsely accused of rape. You see, no one thinks twice about "victim blaming" an athlete who is falsely accused of rape. (TMZ reported that the rape allegation was false -- I don't know if that is factual, since there has not been a trial. Sadly, false reporting charges are hardly ever brought in cases where it's fairly certain lies were told.)

You see, the title of this post was a come-on to get your attention. You thought we were victim blaming women who've been raped. Sorry, this blog does not engage in victim blaming rape victims. A woman never "asks" for it. That's long been our position. (E.g., see here where we wrote: "If we were to suggest that a female rape victim 'asked for it' or that she 'reaped what she sowed' merely because she 'parties hard,' we would justifiably be branded as misogynists for such blatant victim blaming. Your comment is no less offensive merely because the vicims here happened to be male.") We do not believe women bear responsibility for being raped by the way they dress. Period.

But we've noticed that, for some reason, it's OK to victim blame men falsely accused of rape. Double standard? The victims of the second most notorious false rape claim in recent years (after Duke lacrosse) were victim blamed in an ugly way. Remember Hofstra? Read this and explain to us what the hell is going on with the victim blaming:

In any event, getting back to Devin Ebanks, assuming the charges were false, read the news report and decide for yourself if "victim blaming" is appropriate in this context:

Devin Ebanks False Rape Charges Remain a Cautionary Tale for NBA Stars

Los Angeles Lakers forward Devin Ebanks just went through a nightmare scenario, being accused of raping a woman. He let the judicial process play out, and it turns out that the woman was lying about the situation.

However, his situation is a cautionary tale that could happen to a lot of professional athletes. According to TMZ:

Law enforcement sources tell TMZ ... the alleged victim told police Ebanks took her home from a nightclub on September 13, 2011 ... but when she turned down his sexual advances, Ebanks "forcibly penetrated [her] vagina with his penis five to ten times."

Cops say the woman reported the alleged incident to police later that night.

But here's where it gets crazy -- cops say the woman wanted to get Ebanks to admit to the sex, so she sent him a text message FALSELY claiming he had given her a sexually transmitted disease.

But Ebanks didn't fall for the trap -- and replied that he couldn't have transmitted anything to her ... BECAUSE THEY NEVER HAD SEX!!!

We're told the woman also underwent a sexual assault examination, which revealed no foreign DNA anywhere on her body.

The L.A. County District Attorney eventually decided the woman had no credible evidence to back her story -- and rejected the case against Ebanks.

It’s good for Ebanks that the truth came out, and he does not have to go through a trial or having these allegations get dragged out even further. Now he is able to move on with his 2011 NBA season without having to worry about this legal case.

However, this isn’t the first time that this woman has tried to make these allegations towards a pro basketball player. These athletes need to be a lot more careful when they go out at night. A situation like this, could and very well may happen again.

The Ebanks story will hopefully teach a lot of professional athletes to be more aware with whom they associate themselves with. Because, with Ebanks being found to have not assaulted this woman, the accusations will live with him forever.

No matter where Ebanks goes, this claim against him will follow him. It’s something that other professional athletes have to be aware of when they put themselves out there at night clubs or bars.

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