This post is part apology, and part cry for help.
In the past few months, the volume of our email has gone up and up and up, and we are being flooded with notes from people asking us for advice or for help. Many of these notes are heart-wrenching, and some are downright disturbing in the injustices they relate.
Friends, we can't even read them all, much less answer them, and for that we are profoundly sorry. Nothing would make us happier than to be able to assist readers who've been wrongly accused (and usually, it's mothers of wrongly accused young men who write to us). We are badly outgunned--there are just two of us, and we both have jobs.
We are trying to figure out a way to channel requests for help so that they get responses that are helpful, but thus far it's been a losing battle.
COTWA apologizes, and we invite anyone with suggestions to write.