Spoken by someone who has never had the horrible experience of being sexually assaulted. Do you know what it is like to say no and to be ignored? To me, nothing is as horrible as what I am going through right now and you are respectfully a total a-hole.
This comment was submitted to our post HERE. That post, which is central to our mission, seems to bring out the lunatic fringe more than any other we've ever written.
I do love when people try to sneak a comment in months after the post, when few people will see it or can respond to it, trying to get in a few cheap shots. In this case, I felt it deserved a response.
The presumption, that people posting comments here, or that Pierce or I, have never been sexually assaulted, is not only highly insulting, it’s bigoted. How exactly do you know that the person to whom your comment was directed (it isn’t clear), hasn’t been sexually assaulted? You do know what happens when you assume, don’t you? Only in this case, it hasn’t done a thing to me; you, alone, bear the full brunt of your ignorance.
And yes, we do understand what it is like to say "no" and to be ignored. We run stories here daily outlining cases where men/boys are falsely accused and said “No -- I didn’t do it,” and they were ignored, at best, with many going to jail for days/weeks/months and sometimes years at a time, for something they did not do, where they are likely to be raped (ah, the irony!), and at worst, are beaten and/or killed. Many of our readers have been in that situation. But I suppose in your world that, somehow, is less of a violation than a sexual assault.
The principal point that you don’t seem to grasp is that, yes, to you, it is horrible. But no one here is as emotionally involved with your situation as you are, and we can look upon it with a dispassionate view. I would recommend you find some help, because coming to this site with a hateful rant is wholly inappropriate. Contrary to your “respectful” A-hole comment, kindly understand that this is a site devoted to the issue of false rape/sexual assault accusations. We are not a support group for you, nor do we care to be. There are enough services already for that.
We are here for the falsely accused, and those that care about them.
Thank you for stopping by. Respectfully.
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Excellent, Steve.
I grow so weary of feminists who do these drive-by snipes at us -- treating us as if we are Neanderthals but without ever, and I mean EVER, mounting a plausible or persuasive argument as to why we're wrong. Never once have I read one of these and thought, "Hmm, he/she has a good point." Instead we get these incredibly emotional diatribes. Most are from women (they self-identify as women, at least), and sadly, this sort of discourse plays right into the worst stereotypes about women being emotional and irrational -- stereotypes with which I disagree.
See, they can tell by looking at the title of our blog that we are women-hating, gun loving, homosexual hating, death penalty supporting, rape apologists. You know -- because we have the audacity to defend a class of persons they treat as collateral damage in their more important war. If they'd spend a few days reading through this site, they'd understand that our views are not only contrary to these misconceptions, but that they can't be plausibly argued with.
But, hey, I've given up on that crowd. They hate us, and I don't really care. I've come to the conclusion that despite all their pious talk, despite all their lofty phrases supporting gender equity, despite all their denials, most or at least a significant portion of them really do hate men. No other explanation for the reactions we get here.
To me, nothing is as horrible as what I am going through right now ...."
So says a selfish, narcissistic asshole. It's called rape privilege:
http://www.feministcritics.org/blog/2006/12/31/a-vocabulary-for-feminist-criticism-2/
How do we know this girl is not lying about being raped???
Don't give me the "girls never, ever, ever, ever, lie about rape bullshit!!
The most brutal barbaric crimes in Americas history (The Rape lynchings of black man and boys) were fomented by "Rape hysteria".
Sure, perverts and quacks who dominate American academia will say it wasn't the false rape accusation that got the black man lynched, it was racism; to this i say it was in fact "Rape hysteria that pulled the trigger" of the most barbaric crimes in Americas history.
It is still the blacks, latinos, and uneducated "matriarchal underclass" whites that are most subject to being falsely accused of rape and domestic violence.
Theres a reason that very few heterosexual Blacks, latinos, or uneducated "matriarchal underclass whites" are not in the Gender / raunch community.
"The presumption, that people posting comments here, or that Pierce or I, have never been sexually assaulted, is not only highly insulting, it’s bigoted."
It's more than that. It's just plain factually wrong.
I have been sexually assaulted. In a bar/club, by a woman who thought it would be funny and/or amusing.
I have also been accused of spousal rape as part of my ex wife's opening salvo in divorce proceedings. She was instantly believed by those whose job it was to be impartial (law enforcement and agents of the Court), and by those who ought to have known better (mutual friends and her family).
So for a woman who is allegedly a victim of sexual assault to roll in here, dump a steaming pile of psychic feces in the middle of the room, and assume that we are all like her alleged assailant, is bullcrap.
It is also BS to assume that none of us here have direct personal experience with the very same crime she is complaining about. Yet you don't see many of us demanding that others take pity on us or support us for someone else's out-of-bounds behavior.
Her note is pure projection in action.
She needs to get over herself.
And for the record, since shaming language may be coming my way from the fembot crowd, no I am not:
1) Homosexual
2) A sexual loser, who can't get a date
3) Bitter (see #2)
4) A misogynist
One person's trauma does NOT constitute a societal crisis that merits imprisoning innocent people.
Whoever that Anon poster was, they need to grow up, and realize that SPITE and VENGEANCE will not solve the problems they are going through right now.
EW,
Come on, we both know that men can't be victims. /sarcasm off
I wasn't originally going to allow the post, but the more I thought about it, the more it made sense to allow everyone to see the kinds of responses we get on a regular basis.
What I don't get, is why people (feminists), have such a hard time with what we do? All we do, is advocate for a group of people who are falsely accused. You'd think we were advocating for Manson to not only be paroled, but pardoned, and given a medal.
The only way that it makes sense that feminist haters don't like what we do, is that they just don't see men (and that is who the VAST majority of the falsely accused are), as human, and worthy of even basic respect.
Even after 2 years of doing this, it astounds me. Well, disgust is probably a better word for it.
ESB,
Well if there's one thing about this blog, it is that it presents one of the few challenges to the fembot fem-judicial-legislative complex.
These gals go so long without hearing dissenting voices that they assume that everyone agrees with them. And that those who disagree are ogres or something.
Anyways, it is interesting to see the real face of feminism exposed...emotional, hysterical, entitled, and utterly hateful of men and masculinity.
Its not something I talk about often , hell it took me years to actually understand it and work past the anger which is still to this day in me but i was sexually assaulted ( im in the Scotland so my attacker not having a penis means its legally not a rape ) it happened after her husband died she was in a horrific place and i get that but things were expected of me to try and fill a hole in her life ( pun not intended ) and it wasnt even just the sexual side, i quite often took a beating to make sure any of my brothers or sisters didnt get attacked so i know what its like, but i still to this day , and will till the day i die belive that everyone is innocent till proven guilty , and it took me being party to a fra ( i hospitalised someone because of an allegation my flat mate made against him in 2001 ) so im lucky , or cursed depending on the view that you have , i was a victim of someone older, stronger, more emotionally powerful than i was yet i dont belive every female is a rapist , i also dont belive every male is the abuse i sufferd was circumstance and the evil of a human , not of a gender and as long as we try and apply gender lines to this it destroys people who have been victims and also causes defensiveness and apprehension to belive because somewhere in your gut you know there is a chance that it may or may not be true and you cant help but wonder, if for no other reason than we arent allowed to wonder " did it or didnt it happen ?"
"sadly, this sort of discourse plays right into the worst stereotypes about women being emotional and irrational -- stereotypes with which I disagree."
Women aren't irrational. Feminists are irrational.
Well said, 2:23.
The issue is not that this or that person is irrationl, immorally abuses the legal system or whatever - that's human nature. Eve fucked Satan and that how the species was born - we have to deal with that, and we don't do a good job of it where it concerns women's violence and pasive aggerssive manipulation of the system.
The problem is a legal sytem that enables this kind of injustice. And no, I am not talking about the police here. It's much broader and deeper than that.
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Surprisingly, Naomi Wolf actually makes sense here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7nvcIbvEt3w&feature=player_embedded
She is also unusually good-looking for a feminist.
While Jaclyn Friedman's huge square head frightens me. She looks like Frankenstein in drag.
Didn't like being sexually assaulted? Try being falsely accused of rape some time. Not even in the same league!
When are we going to stop pretending that false accusations are victimless crimes?
I'm a man. I have been raped by several women in a span of less than 30 years,I was underaged at the time of the rapes,so they could also be called molestations. I support this site and the work being done on behalf of the falsely accused.
If my rapists had turned around and accused me of rape, I might have gone to jail for a crime they committed against ME.
No woman who has been raped has or will ever suffer THAT indignity or humiliation. So you can shove that where your post came from,allegedly-sexually assaulted anonymous feminist commenter.
However much one might feel this guy 'deserves" this sentence, it is the same sentence for those falsely accused of rape - and every Judge knows what awaits them:
Life in prison worse than death sentence for Cecil New, judge says
By Jason Riley • jriley@courier-journal.com • December 17, 2010
the death penalty was not a harsh enough punishment for kidnapping and murdering a 4-year-old boy, a Jefferson Circuit judge ordered Cecil New II to serve the rest of his life in prison, surrounded by “bigger, meaner men who have nothing to lose.”
“He will fear for his life every day,” Judge Judith McDonald-Burkman told the family of 4-year-old Ivan Aguilar-Cano, who disappeared while playing outside his home near Churchill Downs in 2007 and was murdered by New.
“He will wish this court had put him on death row.”
“Death is undoubtedly justified for you,” McDonald-Burkman told him. “There's not one cell in your body, Cecil New, that can be rehabilitated, not one. But is a death sentence justice?”
McDonald-Burkman said she had investigated the differences between the life of a death-row inmate and one serving a life sentence.
On death row, she said, inmates are segregated from other prisoners and can have meals sent to their cell without ever having to be around anyone else, and typically an execution is not scheduled for at least 20 years.
With the life sentence, New will have to congregate with other prisoners and “is never truly isolated.”
The unusually frank language from McDonald-Burkman included scenarios on how New's life would play out in living in prison, without the possibility for parole.
“Death is easy,” she said. “Living outside of death row, in general population, in fear of prison justice every day is a hell more suited to you, Mr. New, than living under the protective guise of death row.”
Being convicted of a crime you did NOT commit IS rape.
But vengeful, hateful penis-haters don't care.
They want men beaten down.
And it isn't just penis-hating: it's also opportunism.
In our society you can score points against your political enemies by calling them "rape apologists" whenever they raise doubts about a rape accuser's claims. This applies as much to Clarence Thomas as it does to Julian Assange. It's ridiculous.
We're supposed to be innocent until proven guilty, but that never applies when a partisan moron wants to stir up some cheap heat.
Anon 7:56
News Flash:
Clarence Thomas was not accused of rape.
Clarence Thomas was accused of sexual harassment, and there is no proof or indication left or right that it was false. Anita Hill was no Paula Jones. There has NEVER been any question of her conduct or character to indicate it was a false accusation or "partisan".
Oh, and wooo hooo that no one jumped on Al Gore's moonbat accusation "'cause he's a democrat" rather than america's coldest stiff.
Pul-eeeezzzzzze. Don't mock or undermine the credibility of FRS by going there, yet AGAIN.
YOU are the one being "partisan", as well as falsely accusing.
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American women are generally immature, selfish, extremely arrogant and self-centered, mentally unstable, irresponsible, and highly unchaste. The behavior of most American women is utterly disgusting, to say the least.
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If men can be disloyal and unpatriotic so can women.
Let ALL American genders go foreign, since foreigners are so much better than Americans anyway.
Right?
Good point, Jim.
I can't tell you how angry it makes me to read about someone claiming to be falsely accused of murder.
They were accused, they were convicted. Done deal.
I had a family member murdered, therefore I believe everyone accused of murder belongs in prison, and should not be allowed an appeal or access to DNA to prove it didn't happen.
If the true perp wasn't caught, it comforts the families to know at least SOMEone is serving prison time for their loved one's murder.
All the Innocence Project exonerations do is hurt victims and make it hard for them to find CLOSURE.
Same for those falsely accused of Drunk Driving or drug use - or any other crime for that matter.
It doesn't matter if they are truly guilty, to be accused is to be guilty, and the more people in prison, the safer we are as a nation.
I can fully sympathise with your anonymous commentor as I have also been sexually assaulted, and it is a horrific experience. However that fact does NOT in any way diminish the importance of standing up for those who have to deal with the trauma of being falsely accused. I don't think she has fully grasped that these issues, while related, are very separate.
Keep up the good work.
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