While probably not the intention of your site, The False Rape Society blog certainly is part of the problem that leads to many women not reporting actual rapes. When they read on your blog that people believe that most rape accusations are false it can not help but create a culture where women assume they will not be taken seriously if they go to the cops. The fact is that women in this society are routinely told that rape is their fault in many subtle and not so subtle ways. Your site is part of that culture.
This broad brush attack, of course, is posited with no authority beyond the writer's angry ipse dixit. And that is because the only authority undergirding his crass fear-mongering, that insists women don't report their own rapes because they suppose they won't be believed, is its repeated, zombie-like incantation by the gender-divisive purveyors of lock-the-doors, hide-the-daughters Chicken Little rape hysteria, who see sexual predation oozing from every male zipper. You know, the same folks who encourage young women to displace their anxieties about the consequences of consuming what is in the bottle with rumors of what could be put there by someone with a penis. That crowd.
Under-reporting is a controversial subject because, among other things, it's prevalence is impossible to prove. Significant under-reporting of rape can't be accepted as fact because the entire public discourse surrounding it is so terribly gender-politicized that the truth has been obscured and is elusive at best. See, J. Fennel, Punishment by Another Name: The Inherent Overreaching in Sexually Dangerous Person Commitments, 35 N.E.J. on Crim. & Civ. Con. 37, 49-51 (2009).
But, of course, the blogger who posited the aforementioned canard likely will dismiss out of hand any evidence to the contrary, or he will try to twist and pound it beyond all recognition. We recently discussed one source that Bart likely will not dare publicly reject. At the Specter rape hearings in Washington, Scott Berkowitz, President and Founder of the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN), blew the lid off the myths about why women don't report their rapes.
Berkowitz rejected the common consensus that women don't report because they legitimately fear they won't be believed by the law enforcement and judicial systems that have failed them, or because false rape reports are given inordinate attention and news coverage. According to the summary of Mr. Berkowitz's testimony prepared by a well-known feminist:
"On reporting: More victims may not be reporting their rapes, but the reasoning has changed over the past few decades. 'A generation ago,' the reasons were things like, 'fear of not being believed; fear of being interrogated about and blamed for their own behavior, and what they were wearing. In short, they feared that they would be the one on trial.' Today, 'the perception of many victims has evolved.' Now they don't report for these reasons: 'they don't want their loved ones to know what happened; they're ashamed themselves; they just want to put it all behind them.'"
That's from the head of RAINN? Huh? Surely Bart Calendar won't let that get in the way of his victim narrative, will he?
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The more pertinent question for Bart is, how does reporting on the false rape phenomenon discourage legitimate rape victims from coming forward? The stories we report on are about crass liars and vile rogues, women who have nothing in common with rape victims except that they claimed they were raped. What does the one have to do with the other?
We apologize, whole-heartedly, to those people who are offended by the truth.
And, no, we do not focus on the rape problem -- just as we do not focus on baseball, wine, cancer, Beltway politics, or anything else -- because those subjects, worthy as they are of public discourse, are treated elsewhere, in a multitude of places, including many other blogs.
In contrast, to our knowledge, there is one blog dedicated to giving voice to the falsely accused. Apparently, to people like the angry blogger who attacked us, that is one blog too many.
The lone alternative, and the one obviously preferred by Bart Calendar, is that we keep our mouths shut. Pretend false rape claims are a myth. And when the New York Times calls a rape accuser a "victim," we should not point out this error to have them change the description, as we have successfully done; we should just let it drop. Or when the BBC asks for an interview, as they've done on various occasions, we should not assist them. Because, you see, in Bart's world, we can only combat the serious criminality of rape by ignoring other serious criminality. We can only wage the war on rape by elevating the victimization of one group of citizens over that of another, and by allowing our falsely accused sons to be treated as unfortunate but necessary collateral damage in the "more important" war on rape. In other words, we must tacitly encourage women to lie about rape with impunity, even though women are not failing to report because they fear they won't be believed.
Today, a letter appeared in the Edmonton Journal in which writer Carlos Alexandre of Edmonton cited our blog. Among other things, he astutely observed: "Living in a fantasy world where all rape claims are true does little except give opportunists a tool for completely and utterly ruining someone else's life, while simultaneously ensuring less time for legitimate rape cases, regardless of the victim's gender."
I couldn't have said it better.
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I would love for this Bart Calendar character to look in the eye one of the falsely accused young men, or their mothers (we often hear from their mothers) and repeat some of the things he's said. One need not look to the hanging trees in the Old South to know that the public scorn from false rape claims has caused more damage to innocent people than the scorn from any other type of false claim. False rape claims have caused innocent men and boys to be killed and to kill themselves; to be beaten, chased, spat upon, and looked upon with suspicion long after they are cleared of wrongdoing. They lose not only their good names but often their jobs, their businesses, and their friends. It is often impossible for the falsely accused to ever obtain gainful employment once the lie hits the news: for the remainder of his life, a falsely accused man will have prospective employers Googling his name and discovering the horrid accusation.
You don't need to consult ancient history for proof of these things, Bart. Those are all things we've reported on here at FRS.
P.S. It might have seemed I was inviting Bart or his follower to respond to my post. I am not -- (1) because they can't, and (2)they have had their say. I have merely used them as a teaching moment.
Can't disagree with anything here. It's written with your usual brilliance, but I winced when I saw it. Why do you bother going after someone so clearly out of your league?
As a woman, we all know a "bart" type. The not-so-manly type trying to prove his manhood by pandering and bottom feeding.
There's always SOME damaged soul out there willing to believe this guy is REALLY a catch because he throws his own race/gender/country/religion/moral beliefs under the bus.
My, how BRAVE!
He's the guy who believes the unbelieveable. The guy who embraces the repugnant. He's the "Shallow Hal" who sees the beauty in the homely, the obese as thin, the lonely loser as a winner.
Of course, guys like that are a two way street, and that's a two way street most women don't want to enter. "It's all about you" ends up being "all about me". "I overlooked your little flaws" ends up with you being expected to overlook his majors ones.
As any smart woman knows, "If it seems too good to be true - it usually is".
"Bart" isn't angry or "defending women". Bart is bottom feeding. When his "anger" toward victims of false accusations having the NERVE to speak up subsides, he WILL move on to his next planned white supremacist site, or some Patriot's or veteran's site or a religious believers site.
Just 'cause Bart's cool like that.
Let this guy go, he's a nobody. He's in his own little world and he doesn't deserve the attention he's getting. This site serves as fodder for him and his ilk. Ignore him.
When people see what Bart has written, his selective parsing of comments as if they were representative of this site, etc., and then when they compare his characterizations of this site to what this site really says, they'll see the truth. The truth is a lot more complicated than Bart's little sound-byte attacks. I think the contrast between Bart's characterizations and what this blog really says will sway a lot of people who never thought about these issues before. They are going to say, "Archivist and Steve aren't unreasonable at all."
Ladies, this is your champion? http://bart-calendar.livejournal.com/profile
"This is the blog of the Drunken Ex Pat Writer, a fictional creation who cares about nothing but vodka, cigs and pussy."
"Another popular post is the debate over whether or not teeth should be used during blow jobs."
Bart's idea of debate is to call us "fuckers" and "rapists" and "rape apolotists" and not respond to a single thing asserted -- not one -- and then whine that we don't allow him to comment here any more.
We don't allow him to comment because he has proven unable to abide by our Comments Policy. Just as others will not be allowed to comment here any longer.
They are claiming you are afraid to debate them, Archivist!
Anon, the debate is over. I allowed those people to comment on our site and they failed to present one citation to their goofy assertions. Bart has a generalized view that we are rapists, rape apologists, or something. My guess is that the college woman started the whole thing when she commented earlier in the week. She tried to "debate" me by asking what I thought rape is (what an inane question! Have you READ the statutes, dear?). Then I allowed her to go off on some sarcastic rant that proved nothing.
The fact is, they don't know what the hell they are talking about, and they hide behind self-righteousness sarcasm to show what "fuckers" we are. I used their idiocy to demonstrate what we're up against.
They are calling you "the rape people."
This is the message I left on Bart Calender's livejournal page. I invited him to look over my blog and comment to me as well. Let's see.
Apparently, you have never been falsely accused of a crime, because if you were, you'd have a less ignorant understanding of False Rape Society and its purpose. Don't be a simple troll. If you're going to make a point, use some common sense and poise. I stand behind everything I say, so you can comment on my journal page if you see fit. I am a victim, yes a victim, of a false accusation. It happens each and every day in the USA. No evidence? No problem for the "System." They just toss you to the side as the accuser walks away with nary a scratch. Check the stats and see for yourself. It's time to throw the false accusers in jail and start teaching that it will not be tolerated. Perhaps you'd have a better understanding by reading my book, A Motion for Innocence, which is available on Amazon.com or wherever you peruse books. My blog is www.amotionforinnocence.blogspot.com if you'd like to learn more.
Here is a post from the bart site from a brilliant scholar named hippie_mamabear:
"Soooo they're blatantly disregarding any information that doesn't fit what they have already decided is right. Yup, sounds like rapist logic to me!"
Oh, I get it. All the actual examples of rape lies from real media sources are bogus. It's all a lie from a blog that harbors "rapists".
I told you she was brilliant.
Anonymous - "As a woman, we all know a "bart" type. The not-so-manly type trying to prove his manhood by pandering and bottom feeding."
Precisely what I had been thinking. But, coming from another man, it carries far less weight than it does coming from a woman. thank you for making the point.
"Soooo they're blatantly disregarding any information that doesn't fit what they have already decided is right. Yup, sounds like rapist logic to me!"
Any "information"? WHAT "information"? Seriously! What I've "already decided is right" is based on years of study, not venting, or listening to men who hate women, or feeling a grudge about how woman treated me sometime. Those who know the history of this blog know I used to buy into the two percent canard, until I found that it's feminist stardust wishfulness.
You have information? Send it along. You want to give me your uninformed opinions? Keep 'em on your your own site. I've allowed you to publish too much of that here already.
"Anonymous said...
They are calling you "the rape people."
Dec 6, 2010 11:33:00 AM
Are they N.O.W.? I would like for them to at least attempt to prove their false accusations beyond all reasonable doubt and present them with respect and logic.
Oh yes, AND cite their unbiased sources.
I'll be waiting.
Fuck, man! You beat the asshole to a bloody pulp, so enough!!! It's like watching Mike Tyson beat up some slow street person who doesn't even know he's got a huge gash in his head. No fair, so now move on to a different subject. You're going to start to have people side with Bart just because the contest is so fucking unfair. Go pick on someone your own size.
Please don't give this guy any more fame. He's already gotten too much.
I agree with the last comment.
WHY even waste your time with people like him in the first place.
I read a lot of stuff online and I can tell you that some of the articles written here are EXCELLENT and the mission is VERY worthy.
You deserve to have big time media attention and awards for this blog.
"Not fair"?
You know, we have a lot of readers here who were falsely accused. Trust me -- we get notes from them all the time. I've been involved with some of their cases. For this gentleman to smugly accuse us of being rape apologists, then call us foul names, and never offer even a scintilla of evidence to support his hatred, is personally offensive to me.
Put it this way: we would never dream of going on a rape site with such hate speech. It would be offensive and totally inapprorpiate. But this guy strikes me as the type who will never admit he's wrong. Hell, I've batted down every one of their silly assertions with objectively veriable sources -- not "men's rights" sources.
Bart ought to apologize to the men and women who've been falsely accused and for whom our site is a home.
OK, I've read all the comments, and I "get" it.I do. Enough of Bart. Please understand that I was enjoying myself a little too much because, yeah, it was too easy.
I promise this time, I really do, that short of that buffoon trying to start something, that's the end of it.
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