Friday, December 11, 2009

False accusations, and the effect on family.

On this site, we spend a lot of time looking at the effects of a false accusation on the accused. Rarely, such as HERE, do we get a glimpse of how that false accusation affects those close to the accused. Make no mistake, they are victims, too.  Make no mistake, false rape claims are hurting many, many women and girls who could never be plausibly accused of this crime. When an innocent husband, fiance, father, son, brother, uncle, or boss is falsely accused, everyone who loves and depends on them -- male and female -- are also victimized..  The following is another look at that side of a false accusation. I would like to say thank you to one of our readers, who was willing to share their information with us. Here is hoping that your situation is resolved quickly, and with a favorable outcome. Names have been changed to protect all involved.

The Spouse

“It felt like a home invasion. I was terrified beyond explanation. Confused, scared and shaking, I couldn’t help but think that I was married to the BTK.”

These are the thoughts and emotions that went through Sarah’s mind as 8-10 police officers served a search and arrest warrant on her husband, Jim, at their home.

“Based on what they were saying, they acted as if he was guilty of what he was accused of, and that I didn’t know him at all,” said Sarah. “There was never a call for him to come in and answer questions, they just showed up with the arrest and search warrants.”

“On top of everything else, they took all of the things I use for my online business, my computers and cameras, as well as my backups and software. Those computers have my editing software on them, and I can’t afford to purchase them again.”

Sarah and her husband live in a small community, and have had the support of the majority of the people who live in the area. Their pastor mentions his name at every service, and has visited Jim in jail. Neighbors stop by several times a week to check on Sarah and to help with any heavy chores if she needs it.

“I am very blessed that the community believes in us.”

“I’m sure there are those who believe he is guilty, but the community has been very supportive.”

As we have seen on the numerous articles we have run here, there are always those who believe that “where there’s smoke, there’s fire.” However, our judicial system is based on the maxim that you are “innocent until proven guilty.” It is only in the area of sexually-based crimes and domestic violence that we have abandoned this principle and, in the court of last resort -- the court of public opinion -- have placed the burden of proof on the accused instead of the accuser. This MUST be changed.

Sarah’s words say more than we ever hope to say about this false rape culture:

“I think our justice system is corrupt. They do not care about the truth, only a conviction. I will never feel the same way about a police officer, sheriff, or anyone in law enforcement.”

Update: In an email, after this was set to run, bail was reduced, and the falsely accused is out of jail and at home.