Wednesday, October 21, 2009

How far can a rejected woman go?

The following article is absolutely horrifying. First, for the sheer volume of false accusations that are being leveled. Second, for the continual excusing of women using false accusations of rape as a means of punitive action against someone they are upset with.

At least something good seems to be coming out of this:

Ntoki said in view of an increased number of false reports, police would not rush to formally arrest suspects unless in some striking cases.

How far can a rejected woman go?

Some may call them crazy, but love hurts for some women who have opted for desperate measures to win back their partners, even if it meant breaking the law in the process.

Last week some of the women from Maseru said it was not easy to let go of a man you gave all your heart.

“After you realize there is no other way out, you could find yourself taking the craziest measures,” one of the women who spoke on condition of anonymity said at the weekend.

She is one of the many, who over the past four months, went and reported false rape at Mabote Police Station.

Unlike other police stations, fake rape reports are the order of the day at Mabote.

Investigations have shown this usually follows failure to manage rejection by a loved one.

“I felt betrayed and could not think straight. I imagined all the things we did together and felt he had stabbed me on my back and toyed with my emotions,” she said.

But when the heat became unbearable during cross examination by the police last month, she had no option but to change her story.

Her former boyfriend was let off the hook.

She said she still loves Mohloki and wants his forgiveness.

However, Mohloki had no kind words for her.

He is now convinced he had been right to leave her in the first place.

“She came to the newspapers; she is very immature. That has just proved the decision I made to leave her was right. At 25, I am not the only man she has slept with, with her consent of course.

She failed to appreciate my honesty when I told her my feelings for her were gone,” he fumed.

This alone could prove the thinness of the line between love and hate.

Another victim of false rape, Lehlohonolo Lepheana last Friday showed he was still traumatized by his former girlfriend, Vuiswa’s revenge.

Lepheana said he could not discuss the matter without his former girlfriend’s consent.

“You have just spoken to my former girlfriend’s sister on the phone, it was not Vuiswa. I will need to talk to her first before I can tell you what happened,” Lepheana said.

Like Mohloki, Lepheana had allegedly fallen for another woman and Vuiswa could not let go.

In desperation to win him back, she allegedly hatched a plan to make a false report of rape.

The plot failed when following thorough questioning, she revealed the truth.

Lepheana is not the only one nursing the trauma he went through in police cells. Thabiso Mohobane on Friday said he was arrested for a false statutory rape.

He promised to visit the offices to discuss the matter but later chickened out.

However, according to police records, he had fallen head over heels in love with 20-year-old Halieo Mabotha.

After having good times for sometime, he decided to opt-out of the relationship.

The Mabotha family, it is alleged, had a bone to chew with Thabiso whom they alleged had fathered a child with one of Halieo’s relatives but denied responsibility.

On discovering he had been ‘seeing’ Halieo and had again ditched her, they allegedly went to the police.

“We opened a statutory rape docket after the family indicated she was only 16-years-old,” Officer in charge at the Child and Gender Protection Unit at Mabote, ’Mapuseletso Ntoki said.

Following Thabiso’s arrest, she said evidence in the form of a curriculum vitae (CV) showed Halieo was 20 years old.

“We dismissed this piece of evidence before Halieo later confessed she was indeed 20.”
It is alleged her family had only wanted to fix Thabiso not to play love games with women in future.

The same love games left another 34-year-old domestic worker in a fix when she realized she was pregnant and her boyfriend did not want to take responsibility.

Having dated a younger man, she was not sure if she would survive being rejected by a 27-year-old.

All had been well for her when she was working as a domestic worker.

She told the police that one night in April, a relative of her employer had sneaked into her bedroom and raped her.

When she discovered she was pregnant, she informed her employer’s relative who denied responsibility.

“She said the rape had not mattered then because she did not know her situation would be complicated by pregnancy. We understood the circumstances that she might have then felt the need to protect her job. We arrested the suspect.”

However, further questioning revealed the two had not slept together only once, and had been lovers.

“The pregnancy had affected the affair and all she wanted was for her former boyfriend to assume responsibility,” she said.

Ntoki said although none of the women have been formally charged; the police have an obligation to arrest all people who make false reports.

She said it is critical for the public to understand that help in the form of counselling can still be rendered without necessarily making a false report.

She said police were now handling rape reports in a different way, which will ensure they do not waste resources and time on ‘sour grapes’ cases.

Ntoki said in view of an increased number of false reports, police would not rush to formally arrest suspects unless in some striking cases.

“Cases involving children below the age of 18 and where we see there is reason to act fast will be handled differently.”

She said there is need for women who suffer severe depression after a break-up to seek professional counselling.

“Who knows what else some might do to deal with their depression if eventually they understand lying will not bring back their lost love?”