An innocent man spent two months in jail after the mother of his daughter falsely accused him of rape. They had had consensual sex, but was angry at him, so not only did she lie to police about the rape, for good measure she added that he was armed and dangerous. So 12-15 police cars came for him. He was humiliated. Two of the arresting deputies were people he knew from school. He faced 25 years to life for a crime he didn't commit and finally raised $25,000 for his bail. The false accuser finally recanted, but not before his life was ruined. His false arrest cost him countless jobs and $40,000 in legal fees. And he still must pay $460 per month on his bail (and likely child support, to the false accuser).
This man is typical of countless false rape victims. Yet the people who control the public discourse about rape insist false rape claims are a "myth." When they grudgingly concede that a small number of false claims are committed, they insist the real harm is to hypothetical future rape victims. In fact, they are wrong every step of the way. False rape claims are common, and their most significant victims are the innocent men like this, whose lives have been ruined by a vile lie. Read this one carefully.
Accuser recants, but stigma of rape charges remains
By Kate Leckie News-Post Staff
Thomas Charles Bender spent two months in the Frederick County Adult Detention Center when the mother of his child accused him of rape. She later recanted, allowing him to have the charges expunged from his record. At left is his new fiancée, Sandra Crawford.
Thomas Charles Bender is a mason by trade.
Until nine months ago, his only brush with the law was for a pair of hunting infractions, including failure to wear a fluorescent orange vest.
Bender's life took a nightmarish turn Jan. 3, when his former fiancée told police he'd raped her.
Driving down Bethel Road, Bender found himself surrounded by 12 to 15 police cars at the intersection of Fox Road.
He later learned his accuser told deputies to consider him armed and dangerous.
"They don't take that too lightly, I found," Bender said Friday as he discussed his struggle to put his life back together since he has had his record cleared.
Bender, 29, spent eight weeks in jail before he was able to raise $25,000, the 10 percent of his $250,000 bail needed to be released.
Then on March 16, his accuser, Samantha Carter-drabczyk, contacted the Frederick County State's Attorney's Office and asked to discuss the case, according to court documents.
She recanted her rape allegations during a meeting that same day with four criminal justice authorities involved in the case: Assistant State's Attorney Lindell K. Angel; Rebecca Littleton, a victim-witness coordinator; Cpl. Jason West, a sheriff's office detective; and Wayne Moffatt, a state's attorney investigator.
According to court documents, Carter-drabczyk told the group she had been angry at Bender when she made the allegations in January. She told them the two had argued and then had consensual sex.
Moffatt asked Carter-drabczyk if she was coming forward to see justice done, according to the documents.
"Yes. For him," Carter-drabczyk told Moffatt. "He was falsely accused," deputies quoted her as saying in documents seeking charges against her.
During the meeting, Moffatt reminded Carter-drabczyk that Bender had been incarcerated awaiting trial because of three statements she made to separate police officers. Taking back her previous statements constituted the false report of a crime.
Carter-drabczyk told Moffatt she would face the consequences, according to the documents.
Now the 29-year-old Thurmont woman is awaiting trial on criminal charges herself: three counts of making a false statement to police, a crime punishable by up to six months in jail and a $500 fine for each conviction.
A pretrial conference is set for Sept. 25 in Frederick County Circuit Court.
On Thursday, Carter-drabczyk's lawyer, Assistant Public Defender Matthew J. Frawley, declined to comment on the case.
Thursday evening, Carter-drabczyk changed her story again, two weeks before her next court appearance.
"I'm not sorry I took it (the allegations) back," Carter-drabczyk said of her March 16 meeting with criminal justice authorities.
"I did it so my daughter's father wouldn't go to prison and serve 25 years to life," she said.
On Friday, when told of Carter-drabczyk's latest about-face, Bender laughed.
"I think it's pretty obvious that with all the thousands of dollars and all the time police had invested in this case, that if the evidence was there, the state would have picked up the charges against me," Bender said.
For Bender, recovering his life as he knew it before his arrest has been slow.
"It's so frustrating," he said. "I didn't do anything wrong."
On June 16, Bender received a notarized letter from criminal justice authorities telling him the criminal charges against him had been expunged from court records.
When criminal charges against a defendant are expunged, prosecutors and police must destroy all documents related to the case. They cannot even acknowledge the previous existence of a case.
Still, Bender said his arrest has cost him countless jobs and at least $40,000 in legal fees.
Even though his record has been cleared, he's still required to pay about $460 a month on his bail.
The stigma from the allegations has left him humiliated.
Two of the deputies at his arrest were people he knew from attending Thurmont -area schools.
While held on charges of first-degree rape, second-degree assault and false imprisonment, Bender was kept in a cell block with men accused of robbery and attempted murder.
Bender said he plans to file a lawsuit against Carter-drabczyk to recover his financial losses related to the criminal charges.
He's also pursuing custody of their 4-year-old daughter.
Wednesday evening was the first time he'd been allowed to see the child in about a month, he said.
It was their daughter's birthday.
"It was absolutely great," Bender said. "I took her an ice cream cake and lots of nice presents. She loved them. Her Barbie laptop computer was her favorite."
Because Bender was successful in having his record expunged of the rape charges, Maryland court records now show no record of the January allegations against him.
But for Bender, that doesn't go far enough.
"She's ruined my life, but I'm not here to trash her," he said of Carter-drabczyk.
"I've been cleared of the charges, and the public needs to know that. I need to get on with my life."
Link: http://www.fredericknewspost.com/sections/news/display.htm?StoryID=95149
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This is actually a fairly mild example of what happens to the falsely accused. And usually the recantation has to be dragged out of the liar and isn't the result of her suddenly developing a conscience.
Some women....lie.
For example, superstar false rape accuser Crystal Mangum continues to this day to wrongfully accuse the Duke boys of raping her. Enough is enough; the scumbag belongs in prison. This is NOT a victimless crime!
"I think it's pretty obvious that with all the thousands of dollars and all the time police had invested in this case, that if the evidence was there, the state would have picked up the charges against me," Bender said.
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This is an EXTREMELY important point. The prosecutor will ALWAYS assume that a recantation is false and that the so-called victim is just lying to save the "rapist." When they do proceed with charges against the liar you can rest assured that there is some rock-solid evidence backing it up.
In other words, don't believe her bullshit about how she's doing this to rescue her daughter's father from 25 years in prison. That's just some added drama intended to leave some people with the impression that she's the real victim, not him.
RECENT FEMINIST QUOTES:
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"I cannot in good conscience jump on the abortion/contraception is great for women bandwagon. In my opinion it has done as much damage as good. In reality, it gives men another crowbar with which to wedge open women’s legs. Yes, it gives *some* women, *some* level of control but it is a very, very far cry from actual liberation."
"The contraceptive pill is nothing more than a tacit admission that we’re living in a rape culture. It presupposes and reinforces men’s unconditional right to women’s bodies, increasing the sexual availability of women as a sex-class and making contraception the sole responsibility of women. It contributes to the entrenchement of compulsory heterosexuality and of intercourse as “sex”."
"It saddens me that so many women have been conditioned into believing that intercourse is sex."
"Why so, so many men, who couldn’t give a shit about women’s freedom, were so outspoken on the issue of abortion and contraception. Now, it makes horrific and chilling sense. Men on the left are just as fanatical about keeping women subordinate and fuckable as men on the right."
"I really feel and am heart-broken by, the lies and misconceptions about our own bodies, that so many women are battered into believing. As a woman who has never put my body into the hands of men, never trusted male medicine and/or male ideas about women’s function or sexuality, I am so concerned by the damage that is being done to women at the hands of men. Men even fooling women into believing that being used and abused as guinea pigs by male reproductive ’science’ (read: torture), as baby-making machines in hospitals, as fuck-toys and objects in porn and prostitution and (to a greater or lesser extent) in marriage… it really is a horrific world that we are living in… and most women accept it. I find it all so scary."
"Intercourse is totally unnecessary."
"Heterosexual Intercourse is like supply and demand with men representing the demand side and women the supply side. If men stopped demanding it, women would simply stop supplying it. It's as simple as that."
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The statements above represent one of the roots of false rape.
Be careful out there. Heterosexuality is a war zone these days.
Can you provide the names that go with those quotes?
"Why so, so many men, who couldn’t give a shit about women’s freedom, were so outspoken on the issue of abortion and contraception. Now, it makes horrific and chilling sense. Men on the left are just as fanatical about keeping women subordinate and fuckable as men on the right."
Not every man on the left wants to have an actual baby with a psychotic whore who thinks that all sex is rape, even when they go out of their way to have it themselves.
At least tell me the name of the bimbo who said THAT.
Can the man you highlight at the top of your post sue the false rape accuser to recover his legal fees, and as well for slander and/or libel and damage to his reputation. And mental distress.
If not why not?
I realize that the winning party in US litigation generally cannot recover legal fees from the loser, but this case seems different. She made clearly false accusations that very materially damaged him.
I believe that the right to sue for a false rape accusation was recently taken away from us by a federal court.
Why? Because "the victims of rape shouldn't have to go through this." (Apparently in the minds of these radicalized fuckwits there is no such thing as FALSE.)
There was no apparent Constitutional or any other legal basis for the ruling -- just "fuck you, there is no truth and men don't have rights."
-Paid for by the Campaign to Keep Women Fuckable
"Can you provide the names that go with those quotes?"
They're not from famous feminist writers or professors, not to say that they haven't been influenced by them. Just average people like you and me.
I guess this is a 'techinicality' from an MR standpoint, but I don't see where the false accuser changed her story a second time. Does anyone know what the article is referring to where it says she did that? Sorry if that's a stupid question.
Here's a quote from Marilyn French which pretty much sums it up:
"All men are rapists, and that's all they are."
Need anything else?
The following is an open letter from an 85 year old mother of a falsely accused rapist.
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When are we going to differentiate between RAPE and SEX?
If a woman or girl is pulled into the bushes and attacked, that is a crime. When a girl goes down an alley-way, gets in to the back seat of a car, goes to a hotel room, goes back to his or her house, what happens then is SEX not RAPE.
However it is as far as the Law is concerned, why in these circumstances is the word of the woman or girl immediately accepted and acted upon when she goes to the Police? Why is the man then arrested, his house ransacked, his goods taken for examination - just on the word of a female?
Why when SHE says, it is believed, when HE says, it is not?
The man is then in prison, she is free. He is named and pictured in the press, she is not!
For many years now it is not necessary to remain a virgin to be acceptable as a bride. From leaving school young people live together, have babies, change partners frequently, have what is known as "one night stands" on a reglar basis. When girls leave clubs in the early hours of the morning and they have "pulled" it is approved by their friends and expected that this will result in sex. But who says it was RAPE and not sex? She does when she feels like it.
Our teenagers are leaving school pregnant - because they are given a flat, allowances, furniture, everything they and baby needs, so much easier than getting a job. They can entertain, have live-in boyfriends and have more babies - 3 or more all with different fathers, often which is the father is unknown.
In the long distant past, sex before marriage was forbidden - so the woman could receive vast amounts of money - for losing her prospects of a good marriage. As that no longer applies, why are the women known as "victims" and are given a large sum of money (£10,000) whilst the man's life is ruined - read any paper on a daily basis including the local rag, you will find at least 3 articles referring to the arrest of a man on charges of RAPE.
This crime should be in small letters not capitals as it is claimed more frequent than burglary - as I've said - no longer a major crime for most of these bringing the charges are women with no morals but also no respect for men - only see them as (suckers) who will buy things for them, pay their bar bills, baby sit while the mother goes out with her friends.
I refer only to females as I imagine males who are raped are reluctant to be in the news and do not report it. I believe women are trying to become the superiors to men. Who is responsible for the TV adverts children being abused (NSPCC) - always by men! We know again from the press that in many cases the WOMEN are responsible.
I also understand where children are to be assesed as to the suitability of a parent - again it is a panel of WOMEN who are the assessors. Why are men excluded from this panel?
What does the Law do when the man is able to prove his innocence?
Does he get a public pardon?
Does he get all his goods returned and in good condition?
Does he get damages?
What does the Law do when the woman is the found guilty - of all the above to the man, to his loss of earnings, to the manpower involved in the arrest, interviews, ransacking of the house, seizing of property, Court time involving Police, solicitors?
Does she just walk away with a smile on her face, £10,000 in her pocket?
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Anon for obvious reasons
However it is as far as the Law is concerned, why in these circumstances is the word of the woman or girl immediately accepted and acted upon when she goes to the Police? Why is the man then arrested, his house ransacked, his goods taken for examination - just on the word of a female?
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Because our system is based on an ideology written by female sociopaths who don't give a damn about anybody's rights.
The only way to Break the mass rape hysteria that now engulfs America...is to challenge the agitation propaganda that is fueling it.
BREAK THE GENDER FEMINIST LAW ENFORCEMENT MISINFORMATION ALLIANCE. This Alliance is a perversion, and a stain on the American constitution.
And I would like for these crazy, embittered people to just stop and admit that LYING ABOUT RAPE IS WRONG. Is that too much to ask? Could they interrupt the self-pity parade long enough to accept that much responsibility?
Anon,
That is an excellent letter. It sums up many of the issues we discuss on this board.
" On Thursday, Carter-drabczyk's lawyer, Assistant Public Defender Matthew J. Frawley, declined to comment on the case. "
I wonder why he declined to comment.
Anonymous said...
"Why so, so many men, who couldn’t give a shit about women’s freedom, were so outspoken on the issue of abortion and contraception. Now, it makes horrific and chilling sense. Men on the left are just as fanatical about keeping women subordinate and fuckable as men on the right."
Not every man on the left wants to have an actual baby with a psychotic whore who thinks that all sex is rape, even when they go out of their way to have it themselves.
At least tell me the name of the bimbo who said THAT.
Sep 13, 2009 6:48:00 PM
http://allecto.wordpress.com/2009/07/11/abortion-and-contraception-a-radical-lesbian-perspective/
Norm @ 11.02
That is kind of the point, but the REAL point is it is written, by a woman, from an era BEFORE all this feminist / sexual equality bullshit poisoned the western world.
It just highlights how far we have gone in a couple of generations.
Anon for obvious reasons.
I'd like to ask those little sociopaths how the existence of contraception -- which they claim as a "woman's right!" -- is simultaneously proof that we live in a "rape culture."
That's like saying that the First Amendment is proof that we live in a censorship culture. The two are perpendicular.
"I'd like to ask those little sociopaths how the existence of contraception -- which they claim as a "woman's right!" -- is simultaneously proof that we live in a "rape culture.""
They see contraception as an "enabler" for the continuation of the patriarchy. They see Intercourse as patriarchy. They see all Intercourse as rape, contempt for women's bodies.
"It contributes to the entrenchement of compulsory heterosexuality and of intercourse as “sex”."
"It saddens me that so many women have been conditioned into believing that intercourse is sex."
These individuals (puppets) (sheeple) are the results of 40 years of Women's Studies. This is one of the reasons why false rape exists and certainly a reason why VAWA exists. It is organized fascism right before our eyes and no one is willing to fight back.
I've never heard of anybody advocating "compulsory heterosexuality" -- except for Hitler. Even in the Dark Ages there were convents for women who didn't want to have sex, and virginity was viewed with great respect.
I don't know where these girls are getting this from, but I pity anyone who has to live with this level of hate and delusion. They should open their eyes, because the world is a better place than they think it is.
We come here to the blog and get angry and blow off some steam, but then we let it go. I'm afraid that these girls who truly believe we're living in a "rape society" with "compulsory heterosexuality" are living this nightmare 24/7.
"I'm afraid that these girls who truly believe we're living in a "rape society" with "compulsory heterosexuality" are living this nightmare 24/7."
Can you say: Mentally ill
Ever hear of a drug for hatred? I haven't. They're sick.
False claims? Tell me about it!
The son (he's pushing 60) of the 85 year old woman above has already admitted downloading kiddy porn and selling illegal drugs which he claims to have bought from policemen. A couple of years ago he attempted to defraud ISPs in a claim that he invented himself from start to finish and which was thrown out at the RCJ.
The 'woman' that he is accused of raping is a teenage strumpet. Hardly 'coming back to my place for a cup of tea' by an honest bloke looking for a mutual legover is is mrs B?
Roll on June 2010 and we might just see some justice done when he appears in Exeter Crown Court.
This 'poor innocent son' of the 85 year old woman (as well as being a drug dealer he has a history of attacking females) was pulled up by social workers after attacking a 13 year old girl in his care. His 'innapropriate sexual conduct' included a little game of 'smackybums' he likes playing with children.
Isn't that right JOHN STUART BUNT of Exeter!?
JOHN BUNT has also had his computers seized after police found beastiality pornography on them. He is trying to wiggle out of this one by blaming his female partner for downloading it.
It is terrible to see him abusing a forum like this one.
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