Comment: Once again, a woman drinks (of her own free will), has sex with someone (at her request), and regrets it the next day and claims rape. A British tennis star, going to school in the Bible Belt, is locked up soley on a young woman's claim of rape. He contemplated suicide. Even after it was over, he's not sure he can ever trust a woman again.
This is, perhaps, the greatest problem for men when alcohol is a factor in this type of incident. And when the laws absolve women of any responsibility for the choices they make, it adds up to a disaster waiting to happen -- for men. The woman said that the act was "not forced, but without her consent," but she had also specifically asked if she could sleep with Chris Doerr. Everyone agrees women should have equal rights, but this woman, and many others we've profiled on this Web site, does not want equal responsibility. Perhaps, when more women demand equal responsibility for their actions, this site, and others like it, will no longer be needed.
Man fears life will never be normal again.
Mississippi (ChattahBox) - Mississippi has long since been criticized for it’s religiously motivated laws, especially those on rape, which allow a young woman to cry “rape” if a man has sex with her, with clear consent, after she had been drinking. A startling case of such a circumstance has many wondering it maybe it isn’t time that Mississippi joined the rest of the country in modern times.
Chris Doerr, a tennis star from Britain, had been at a University of Mississippi party, with around 50 other people, all drinking, having a good time, and more or less acting like college kids do. His attentions were focused on a pretty brunette who had come to the party with two men, some beer, and some vodka.
“She started flirting with me and she was by my side all night,” the 21-year-old recalled.
“I had my arm around her and we were kissing. She was quite nice looking. She knew I was a tennis player and laughed at my jokes. Then she asked if she could sleep with me. It’s rarely in Mississippi that girls say that to a guy. But she was extremely forward.
“When we had finished, she cuddled against me and fell asleep. I woke up at about eleven the next morning and she had gone.”
It was only a few hours later when a Sherriff arrived at the door, and Doerr’s nightmare began.
“He said she was claiming she was raped, and asked me to go to the station for questioning. I was freaked out, but to me rape meant violence, holding a girl down, and I would never, ever do anything like that. I had nothing to hide so I gave him a statement.”
He was locked up, and told that any woman could claim rape if she had been drinking when she had sex. It is a common occurrence, especially in the ‘Bible Belt’, where religion still heavily influences both laws, and social behavior.
“When they told me I could go to prison for life, I considered suicide,” he admitted later.
“I got a Facebook message saying, ‘I hope you rot in jail and get raped in jail.’”
He couldn’t understand how this could happen to him, his perception of rape being of violence, force…after all, she had been the one to ask if they could sleep together, and she had stayed the entire night.
The entire case was made around the alcohol, after the girl admitted in an affidavit that the act was ‘not forced, but without her consent’, and ambiguous statement, at best, and apparently too much for the courts to handle. After a frightening battle, and evidence he didn’t supply the alcohol, Doerr was released without charge.
He plans to stay in the US, hoping to move to Florida to become a coach, but his experience has effected him greatly.
“I worry there will always be a stain on my reputation and that life will never be normal again. I don’t know when I will date again. How can I ever trust anyone?”
Link: http://chattahbox.com/us/2009/02/08/british-tennis-players-speaks-about-false-rape-allegation/
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I don't know if i can ever trust a women again, after my false rape acussation
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I have told people many times, that some of Christian doctrine is effctively misandric and harmful to men. Not that changing the law in this case, is going to change Christianity.
Inability to trust all women is a common side effect of a false rape claim, Scott. I think a lot of guys are really hurting out there, and probably need therapy -- but guys being guys are often reluctant to get it.
Kids with raging hormones need to be educated about women like this. Destroy your whole life over a false accusation -- just for a few minutes of bliss?
Pierce Harlan, while I agree with you that this woman Carol Leigh Mayers must go to prison for statutory rape, I can't blame the defense lawyers for using their arguments because whether some1 is innocent or guilty, it's the job of the defense lawyer to give their client the best representation & this woman's lawyers are doing what they're paid to do. Hopefully, a jury will see through this & convict her of statutory rape & send her to prison.
What is bad is when TV talk show hostesses such as Oprah Winfrey give forums on her show to women who commit statutory rape to make excuses for their actions, w/o little or nothing said in terms of opposing views. I've written before that I hope Oprah Winfrey does not excuse statutory rape when women commit it against teenage boys, but when Oprah Winfrey gives these women forums to excuse their actions on her show, 1 must wonder whether Oprah Winfrey sees anything wrong with it.
But there is something Pierce that you could give more coverage to when it comes to statutory rape by adult women on teen boys & that deals with cases where 34 year old women have had sex with 16 year old boys & then accused the 16 year old boys of rape with the hope of avoiding statutory rape charge or to keep their husbands from finding out about the reality of the affair that these women have for teenage boys. You briefly discussed it in another blog.
How many of the 16 year old boys accused of raping 25-34 year old women were in fact statutorily raped by these adult women & then accused of rape? In @least some cases, though the # is unknown. As many have said women who commit statutory rape on teenage boys must get the same punishment as men who commit statutory rape on teenage girls.
Finally with rape & sex abuse trials , Each case must be judged individually. What Jeana in her writings about rape overlooks is that with consent, they're not always as easy as yes, no cases. Just as a woman or a man can initially agree to have sex & then @ the last minute or during the act revoke consent & say "no, they don't want to do it", it's also possible for a woman or man to initially say no to sex such as "no, not tonight" but then a minute later voluntarily change their mind (where there is no violence & no threats of violence) & say "well on 2d thoughts why not?, we don't have anything else to do", take their clothes off & have sex. Jeana has not discussed this when it comes to rape/sex abuse cases.
Ab, on consent -- must reading: http://falserapesociety.blogspot.com/2008/11/culture-of-radical-feminist-rape.html
My false rape accusation happened 2 years ago, and at times i seem to be as scrambled today, as i was after it happened.
I just screwed up another potential date with a girl, because i'm scared of another false accusation. I believe i may have a real case of post traumatic stress disorder, but don't wan't to take the pills that keep me wacked out.
How can our justice system do this to people?? I would have felt alot safer as a man, if the girl was simply charged, but she wasn't, and yes i do not feel safe in the presence of women anymore.
This is not a balanced perspective, and i know not all women are like the one that did this to me, but cannot seem to find my way out of it.
archivist, i do need help, and would like to ask for it, but who am i going to ask???, and what are they going to tell me???
The help i seek is justice, and to feel safe from another false accusation.
You tell me a professional who doesn't want to whack me out on meds, and who could help me overcome this quagmire, and i will call them.
I believe their will be no peace for myself, or others, until false rape accusers are charged!!
Is America one of the only countries in the world that does not charge false rape accusers??
Scott,
Sadly, no this isn't the only country. It appears, more and more, that those countries where women have been given "equal" rights, that this seems to happen quite frequently.
Of course, the mistake that has been made is that while they now have equal rights, they haven't been expected to take on equal responsibility. And that can be laid directly at the feet of the modern feminist movement, and its enablers in government.
I wish I had an easy solution to your problem, or even someone I could refer you to. The only thing I can offer you is an ear. If you need to bounce thoughts/feelings....whatever.....my email address is althalus1969@hotmail.com
Feel free to drop me a line any time you need to chat.
"Gender equality" is never equal. Men are always turned into the underclass where feminism flourishes. Poverty, high drop-out rates, crime, and ignorance are always the inevitable result.
One should NEVER trust a modern woman, most especially a MODERN AMERICAN WOMAN (AW). There is even a term for them - skank.
I have never trusted women (I'm gay) and I thank God every day that this situation will never happen because I don't trust women. All women. You would trust them as much as you would trust a fox in a henhouse. Take this advice: TRUST NO WOMAN!
Scott,
i know it is tough but try to get some therapy it really helps!
as for girls, try being friends with them first, rather than make it a date just hang out with them as friends first, its easier said than done but its a much better way to create for a girl, especially after what has happened!
i think that mississippi is changing its law for rape accusers, but i do think their should be a penalty because it seems easy for a woman to open her mouth and then close it and suddenly its seen as problem solved!
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